Frasi di Lewis Smedes

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Perdonare è liberare un prigioniero e scoprire che quel prigioniero eri tu.

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It takes one person to forgive, it takes two people to be reunited.

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Forgiving does not usually happen at once. It is a process, sometimes a long one, especially when it comes to wounds gouged deep. And we must expect some lapses. Some people seem to manage to finish off forgiving in one swoop of the heart. But when they do, you can bet they are forgiving flesh wounds. Deeper cuts take more time and can use a second coat.

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Vengeance is having a videotape planted in your soul that cannot be turned off. It plays the painful scene over and over again inside your mind. And each time it plays you feel the clap of pain again. Forgiving turns off the videotape of pained memory. Forgiving sets you free.

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Human sexuality includes more than hormones, organs and orgasms; it runs through the psychic and spiritual ranges of our lives. We experience our sexuality on the spiritual level as a yearning for another person. We want to reach out and stretch ourselves into the depths of another. We want to bring the other person into the orbit of our deepest selves. We want to probe into the mystery of the other.

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To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.

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Forgiving is, first of all, a way of helping yourself to get free of the unfair pain somebody caused you.

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Forgive a wife-slammer if you can. But you don't have to live with him. Forgive a husband who is abusing your children if you can. But only after you kick him out of the house. And if you can't get him out, get help. It's available. In the meantime, don't let him near the kids, and don't let anyone tell you that if you forgive him it means you have to stay with him. There's an important difference between forgiving a person and tolerating their bad behavior.